Shriya Karkera

Humans of Bombay – “A woman is nobody’s responsibility or asset.”


From ‘Humans of Bombay’

“When I was 14, I used to talk to boys; drive motor cycles, smoke cigarettes and people in Bandra, Mumbai, India, would often call me a whore because of those things.  I never understood the term back then, but sure if doing all those things made me a whore– I’d take it gladly. After my father’s death, I moved to Chicago where there were so many like me and it gave me the freedom to get inked, experiment with my hair and just be myself. One Christmas Eve in Chicago, I walked out of a bar alone late at night in a short dress and red lipstick. I was 24 and had been drinking, when from a dumpster a group of guys walked upto me and put a gun to my head asking me to give them blow jobs, eventually leading to gang rape. I remember walking home, showering and pushing this incident to the back of my mind for years and never letting it break my spirit – I still wear short dresses and the brightest red on my lips.

In years to come, I got married to my high school sweetheart, faced domestic violence and walked out of the marriage wondering how this could happen to ME, a feminist? It’s because sometimes there are things that are beyond your control. We live in a world where everyone stresses the importance of voicing yourself or walking out of tough situations, but I just want to say this— no one wants to be beaten up, get raped or sell their bodies. It took me 20 years to voice my incident, but for me a woman keeping it all within her because she has no other choice isn’t a sign of weakness – it’s a mark of strength and something we need to start respecting.”

Why as a woman are we made to believe or eventually accept that the misfortunate things that happen to us – “women” is always beyond our control. Despite of the modern times, why can’t we as women live a life free from the conceptions or the misconceptions of the society and fearless. When a man is never misjudged when he is out there in a pair of shorts, how does this seem different for a woman ?

A woman is way beyond and much more than what she wears, how she wears, what she does, how she walks, or where she belongs from. They are as much as a soul of their own, as a man is, and needs to be respected and judged as an equal. This piece of news from the page of Humans of Bombay, has been an eye opener for people who believed that rapes or labelling a woman with what she is wearing happens only in India. People all across the globe need to wake up and realize this simple fact that – a woman is nobody’s responsibility or asset, she is as much as a human as a man is, and needs to be treated nothing more or nothing less than that.

One thought on “Humans of Bombay – “A woman is nobody’s responsibility or asset.”

  1. This story is absolute amazing. I have so much respect for her, no one should ever have to go through that. Women shouldn’t be defined by their gender, they should be defined by purely who they want to be. If she wants to drive motor cycles and talks to boys more then girls, then good on her. Society shouldn’t define who you are, you should define who you are.

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